country calm

Today on NPR, graduate student Lena Moses-Schmitt recalls her escape from the urban jungle last summer when she volunteered to work on an organic farm in Vermont through the WWOOF program. I was tired of rushing through my day without ever looking around — unless it was at my phone,” she says.

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For two months this summer I also tried an experiment: To live, work and play full-time on our farm, without stepping foot in the city. Weary from the pain of losing my mom, and from diving headlong into work for months thereafter to help chase away the blues, I found myself all of a sudden needing to be in a completely different place for awhile. So I went to the country. And here are some of the gifts and memories that came back with me:

Deepened Friendships. Instead of driving back n’ forth to the farm every other weekend, with a sense of the ticking clock and the anxious tug of needing to get back to our “normal” life in the city, I simply stayed. And by doing so, well, everything. slowed. down. Suddenly there was more time for friends and conversations. There were long trail rides, cookouts, pool parties, horseshoe games, fishing, reading, biking the Ladiga, and kicking the tires” (as Cary would say) with all the nice folks who stopped by or stayed over.

Living with Horses. In the 15 years that we’ve owned horses, they’ve always been boarded somewhere else. From Atlanta to Madison, to Hartwell to Canton to Cumming, and throughout 10 years on the road for horse shows, we never once had a horse on our own property. That’s one of the main reasons we bought this place: to create a retreat not only for ourselves and friends, but for the horses as well. Waking up to these noble beasts every morning this summer, and kissing them goodnight every evening, brought nothing but pure joy.

Saws, Drills & Hammers. This was the year we were determined to finish the big stuff: pasture fencing, barn repairs, a funky pool cabana, trail clearing, riding arena. For weeks on end, the constant sounds of construction became part of the farm’s symphony, signaling the old place coming back to life.

Hay Days. We love watching the grass grow long and tall with the passing days…and eagerly anticipate each hay-cutting when Buster brings all his big tractors and toys, and cuts and bales the grass into giant rolls that look like alien saucers have landed in your fields. Then the next day they’re all gone and the process starts over again.

Fears Conquered. I held a 4 1/2-ft. dead rattler in my hand, which pal David bravely had killed on the trail…with a knife. He and his dad skinned it and we all ate grilled rattlesnake a couple of days later. And then there was my solo standoff with a water moccasin sunbathing near our back deck. With Mike and David each coaching from their phones, and a .38 pistol in my hand, I manned up and shot it.

Finally, I brought back what I went looking for in the first place — Peace. Found through all of these things and more — like the great barred owl’s nightly courtship calls, pink sunsets, thick blankets of stars, the frog serenade floating up from the pond, our beautiful creek, a bountiful garden, wild turkeys, little hummingbirds and sassy chickens, Great Danes galavanting all over the place, “going loafin'” on a Sunday afternoon, deep Southern accents and comical turns of phrase, and an even deeper, truer appreciation for all that is the South — I’m now filled and rejuvenated by the sights, sounds, smells and spirit of the country.

 

Photos by Lena Moses-Schmitt

 

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“Picture all the expectations you have for yourself, your life, your spouse, your kids, your coworkers, your job, the world. Take them from inside you, and toss them in the ocean. A river or lake will also do.

What happens to them? They float. They’re carried around by waves. The current takes them out, and they drift away. Let them be washed away by the cleansing waters, and let them go.

Now live your life without them.” 

Leo’s post made me smile because he knows the secret. And perhaps it’ll make you pause and smile, too. Imagine watching all your expectations float, then start to drift away.

More at http://zenhabits.net/ah/.

 

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So, Randy, when you were in the heyday of your PR career, did you ever feel like the walls were starting to close in?
You bet. Several times. The worst was when I was going through a divorce and one of my top people announced that she was leaving the firm. I was hoping to be able to coast a while until I could get my feet back on the ground. The Universe had other plans, however.

What advice would you give young people today about making it to the top without losing one’s way?
Be clear on what your core values are. Core values are those values that you live your life by. Compromise those, and you’ll compromise yourself.

Do you remember a particular moment when you thought, “A-ha, I’ve finally made it.” And, if so, how did that feel?
Never. Life is a journey. I believe we’re always in the process of “making it.”

You’re an author, coach, trainer, artist. Does all of that ever become overwhelming to you or does it just feel great?
I believe the secret to living a meaningful life is striving to become the full expression of all you are. Writing, training, coaching and painting are all ways that I express myself. I read a wonderful passage today that speaks to this: “We all have a deep longing to create from the divinity within us. But what that creation is like is different for each individual.”

How do you find time to “just breathe”?
Nature does this for me. Every time I look at the mountains — I live in Asheville, NC — I take a deep breath and say a prayer of gratitude. I’ve lived here for more than twelve years, and I still don’t take the beauty that surrounds me for granted. When I lived in Atlanta walking in Piedmont Park did the same thing for me.

What mountains haven’t you conquered?
I’ve done well in the world of business, but I have yet to master matters of love. I’m in the process of writing a book on breakups. That I know about, but how to maintain a successful intimate relationship is a lesson I have yet to learn.

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April, how do you find those “deep breaths” at this point in your career? And what experiences have led you to work in a different way?
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