“When I grow
up I want to be
an old woman.”
When I Grow Up…
On Living Well
Doo-Nanny
One final footnote (or is it be a headnote?) to today’s post about the Chattahoochee Heritage Project…
Category:
Words to live by.
Definition:
Doo-Nanny. A term coined by Butch Anthony’s long-time friend, John Henry, meaning “to improve yourself every day in every way.”
Aha!
A dear friend, Randy Siegel (who was also my boss for seven years), launched a new business this month, Your Internal GPS. Please check it out. Meanwhile, here’s an article reposted from Randy’s October e-newsletter. It’s so good, we just had to share. Have yourself a happy week!
Be Happy, Truly Happy
Do you ever read something and have a magical “aha moment”? Here’s one of mine.
Erich Fromm in To Have or To Be? describes a modern misconception. He writes that most of us spend our lives trying to:
Have enough (money, power, things) so that we can…
Do what we want in terms of work and how we spend our time, because then we can…
Be happy.
Unfortunately, most of us get stuck at the first step: we never “have enough.” As a result, we put living our lives on hold.
“Once I pay off the house, I will consider changing careers.”
“When the kids are grown, I’ll deal with my marriage.”
“When I retire, I will take up painting, golf or traveling.”
Fromm says that in order to have a rich life you need to invert the formula. First, you need to:
Be who you are. Know your strengths, weaknesses and your purpose. This self-awareness will lead you to….
Do what you love. When you use your unique strengths to be of service to others, you will be rewarded, and…
Be happy. You’ll have what you need. That doesn’t mean you will have everything you want, but it does mean you will have what you need. Dick Leider says in The Power of Purpose, “There are two ways to be rich; one is to have more, the other is to want less.”
How can you invert the having, doing and being cycle? Stop making money your primary goal. Instead, follow your passion, heart and values. Stop measuring your success by your bank account. Measure your success by your happiness.
Happiness is a feeling that comes from inside; it cannot be bought. Sure, you can feel unhappy if you don’t have enough money to meet your basic needs, but after that, money will not make you happy. To be happy, do what you love to do and do it to be of service to others.
Aha!
Reprinted with permission from Randy Siegel. His new book, The Inspired Life, will be published next month.
Buyer’s Remorse-less
Buyer’s Remorse: The feeling of regret after a purchase. It is frequently associated with the purchase of higher value items such as a car or house. It may stem from a sense of not wishing to be wrong, of guilt over extravagance, or from feeling that one has been persuaded by a salesman. (Wikipedia)
When Mike and I bought the farm last year, we suffered from weeks of anxiety, accompanied by frequent bouts of sheer panic, followed by so many thoughts and reactions like:
Oh God, what have we done?
We don’t know the first thing about running a farm.
Alabama? What?!
The horses will surely die under our care.
Let’s Google “rattlesnakes.”
We’re gonna go broke fixing up this dump.
Do you think there are wild boars out here?
Mike, wake up! What’s that noise??
Today, we still suffer from a little heartburn. And whenever something goes wrong, which happens a lot, Mike and I usually scowl at each other like it’s the other one’s fault.
But then a day like today comes along, when the sun lights up the pastures where horses graze peacefully, when bluebirds fly casually by and crows caw loudly overhead, when Adrian and his friends run barefoot all around, talking a-mile-a-minute, happily arguing over what to do next—play Xbox LIVE, swim, hit the creek, or take target practice with Airsoft artillery—when Mike’s off working quietly away on one project or another, when the dogs lie snoozing under rays of sunshine, and here I sit drinking coffee on the deck, gazing out at the land, reading and writing this note—somehow knowing that all will be well. That all the worry and frustration and fear matter nothing in the face of such happiness in this glorious place.
